DSM IV-TR criteria
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
1. has a grandiose sense of self-importance
2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. believes that he or she is "special".
4. requires excessive admiration
5. has a sense of entitlement
6. is interpersonally exploitative
7. lacks empathy
8. is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
this is here as a precursor to some upcoming post that I can feel on the horizon... its been a meditation of mine (just as it is seen here, really) for the past year... thats the time Ive spent living with someone that, Im coming to understand more and more, suffers from this condition... in my next post, will be something similar to this, that might say more- but for now I ask that you meditate on these for a bit...
this really does sound like a whole society, doesnt it?
Ive had my fill of narcissism- and in that, Im finding society at large (business, politics, "going along to get along") just a bit much... do you know what I mean?
and so, you know me... Im looking deeply, to see what of this is there in myself-
nothing has changed this realization one bit- if I recognize it in another, it means it is there in me... the very thing that is doing the recognizing, IS THAT!...
yes- I see it... and its hard to overcome... the outward pointing that arises when we feel ourselves as separate from the other...
4 comments:
yeah.. i know what you mean. :)
the looking is the beginning of the end.
xx
Hiya Dear ani :)
the beginning of the ending- yes, I would say yes indeed...
the ending of our suffering- the ending of living in the past, the ending of believing ourselves as separate from the world we inhabit...
thats what you meant, right? :)
lovely to see you here!
exactly what i meant. :)
but, you know.. it's still difficult to just let it all be.
oh God, is it ever difficult!
when I look at the Narcissist, and come to realize, that HAS to be me for as long as Im rejecting him...
the Entitlement thing, to see someone treat another (or me) with this sense of entitlement ("what have YOU done for ME lately?") ...and to "FEEL the call" to meet that with compassion, instead of what DOES meet that, (more of the same entitlement) ... this is oh so difficult!
the thing is, the very difficulty IS the
"call" - that is, it IS all the PROOF anyone really needs, to see that there is ONLY entitlement... there IS NO "your" entitlement and "my" entitlement... there is only ONE...
one exploitation,
one self centeredness,
one envy,
one arrogance.
there is ONLY ONE of any of these things...
THAT I see it in another, means it is there in me...
when I get to see this, then there is the Love- no separation! a call to the healing of ALL of this, through that very compassion of seeing it... no separation means that I heal this the very second I see it within myself, meeting the other...
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